ONLINE THERAPY FOR RELATIONSHIP ISSUES in CALGARY, EDMONTON, HALIFAX & OTHER PLACES IN ALBERTA & NOVA SCOTIA
Find harmony in your relationships, find peace within yourself.
Are you struggling to find time for yourself because you're busy taking care of everyone else?
Does it feel like you're always the one making sure everyone else is okay, while your own needs get pushed aside? You might notice that in your efforts to make everyone happy, you often end up feeling overlooked or undervalued.
You might catch yourself saying or thinking:
“I don't want to cause any trouble.”
“Sure, I can postpone my own things; your needs are more important."
“It’s okay. I’ll just fit into whatever plans you have; I'm easy."
“I will do anything I can to keep my friends around.”
“I really don't like arguing.”
In your friendships and family, you're the go-to person for favors and support, always lending a hand or an ear, regardless of how busy or tired you might be. You fear that saying “no” might make them think you don't care or that you're not a good friend or family member.
In your work, you might often end up taking on more than your fair share of work because you want to be seen as helpful and reliable. You worry that saying “no” might make you look uncooperative or lazy.
In your romantic relationship, you feel like it's your job to keep your partner happy, and your own wants and needs get ignored. You think you have to be the one to make sure everything's okay.
You feel like you're stuck in a bad pattern and don't know how to find a happy, trusting relationship.
You might be feeling constantly worried that your partner will leave you, which makes you either clingy or overly suspicious. Or you might always avoid or sabotaging relationships when they start to get serious. You may find it difficult in maintaining long-term relationships due to either pushing people away or becoming overly dependent.
You keep asking yourself why your friends are in good relationships, but you have trouble starting one or always end up breaking up. You fear that at this rate, you will never find your true love and will be the only one left alone. However, you are also really scared to let someone else into your heart again, because you don't want to go through another heartbreak.
Whatever it is that you’re experiencing, you’re beginning to notice the impact of this in every facet of your life:
It's hard for you to believe that someone could really love you.
You seem to end up with partners who don't treat you right, and it makes you feel worse.
You avoid getting too close to anyone because you're scared of being vulnerable and then being let down.
You feel constantly needing reassurance from your partner, but even then, finding it hard to fully believe their affection or commitment.
You might have trouble making new friends or trusting new people because you're afraid they'll let you down like others have in the past.
Do you feel overwhelmed by what your family expects of you?
Does it feel like you are always trying to take care of your family, making sure they are okay? It's common for people to juggle their family's wishes with their own dreams, which can be confusing and stressful.
You might catch yourself saying or thinking:
“My family says they want me to be happy, but they also have a lot of expectations about my success and money.”
“I’m often told I’m too sensitive when I share my feelings, making me feel alone and not good enough.”
“There's a lot of control over what I do, from my job to how I look. It feels like I’m being pushed by guilt or fear to do what they want.”
“I end up being the one who has to support my family emotionally and take care of my parents when they are in conflicts, which is really hard on me.”
“When I was young, I had to grow up fast, taking care of things that usually adults do, which made it tough for me to figure out who I am and take care of myself.”
Whatever it is that you’re experiencing, you’re beginning to notice the impact of this in every facet of your life:
You constantly doubt whether you are good enough and look for approval from others.
You might often put aside what you want to make others happy.
When deciding on your career or relationships, you worry if your family will be upset with your choices.
You struggle with taking care of yourself and feel guilty when you put your own needs first.
You believe you must always be there for your family, even when it's too hard on you emotionally or financially.
Therapy for relationship issues can help you break the toxic ties.
It may feel impossible now, but you can learn to put your own needs first. You can build relationships where you're treated well and your feelings are respected. You can find the strength to set boundaries and say “no” when you need to. And I can help you get there.
Our focus in therapy will be:
Identify your relationship patterns and understand yourself in relationships, such as attachment styles, your needs and values in relationships, your languages to show love, etc.
Uncover how your past relational experience have impacts on your current relationships.
Discover what you really want and need, both from yourself and in your relationships, and how to get your needs met
Gain tools to manage the anxiety and uncertainty that come with attachment insecurities.
Learn effective ways to communicate your feelings and needs without fear or hesitation.
Practice setting boundaries that are respectful but firm, helping you stand up for yourself.
faq
What people have asked about therapy for relationship issues?
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Talking to a therapist is different from chatting with friends or family. First, therapists have special training to help you understand your feelings, work through your problems, and make changes. They offer a safe space where you can share anything without judgment, and everything you say is kept confidential (except for some circumstances).
While friends and family can offer great support and advice, they might not always be objective because they're part of your life. A therapist, on the other hand, can give you a fresh perspective and professional guidance based on what's best for you. Plus, therapists can teach you specific strategies and tools to handle your feelings and situations better, which friends and family might not know about.
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We'll begin by discussing why you've come for therapy and then we'll identify the goals you want to reach. In our sessions, we'll talk through your current problems and help you understand your relationships and yourself better, such as your relationship patterns, attachment styles, your needs and values, and more. We will also explore the impacts of your past relational experiences and provide you with tools to manage anxiety, set boundaries, and better communicate your feelings and needs.
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Reach out to me today. I’m happy to answer any questions you have. You can decide if I’m a good fit for you. If we are a good fit, that's wonderful! We'll schedule your first therapy session and start working towards your goals. If not, no worries at all. I will suggest other great therapists/psychologists who might be the right fit for you.
